Friends must be Honest with Each Other

Daily "Words of Wisdom" from Apply

Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy” (Proverbs 27:6).

To have a good friend, YOU must be one. Be a good friend and deepen friendships to make them last.

A family member, let’s call her Martha, recently called me while waiting for her friend to “show up” at a local coffee shop.  During the conversation, which lasted for over 30 minutes, Martha said: “who knows if my friend will show up at all. She is so flaky.”

That made me think. Seriously, who wants to have a friend that you can’t even rely on for a cup of coffee? What happens in a real emergency? The term “flaky” already says it all: a person you can’t rely on or count on.

Martha isn’t a young teenager, but is a wife and mother of two in her 40’s. So sad, isn’t it? The advice we gave Martha on the phone was to tell her friend that this behavior is disrespectful and that it is not nice to be flaky.  Martha was afraid to hurt her friend’s feelings so she decided not to bring up the “issue.”  Martha further said that she would simply stop being friends with such a “flaky” person.

How sad I thought. Rather than confronting the friend about being flaky, which may lead to her friend becoming a better, more responsible person, Martha simply decided to stop being her friend.

Friendships should always be built upon a foundation of honesty and love.  If you want your friendships to last, then you should be able to address situations which affect your relationship with your friends, right?